A short walk today, near my hometown Baarlo, after visiting my mother. It is windy and much cooler then the weeks and months before. In its place come huge beautiful clouds and the threat of a thunderstorm. It doesn’t come closer than one flash of lightning and the fierce rumbling of thunder.
Being here also brings me back to my youth and my first real girlfriend. There were no dating apps or relation sites. You just had to walk into someone. Most of them were succesful, I notice, looking around me. I read in todays newspaper that dating gives you the opportunity to broaden your scope and heighten your chances. You are no longer restricted to your social circle or the 30 people at the pub, they say. I read with mixed feelings. First of all it would stress me out, so much choice. And it is not like there weren’t any loving relationships from the lesser choice before the app. I am now in a situation where friends council me to date. I hesitate, shiver is a better word for it. I too have, like most of us, the longing for connection and intimacy that even a loving friendship doesn’t bring. But it would have to be someone who is in tune with my 60 years of full living and experiences. I imagine it would be someone who likes long walks and can be deeply attentive. Being attentive prolongs time and slows down, hence the long walk. The movement of the walk then creates a feeling of connection and contact. Ideally followed by one flash of lightning and a rumbling of thunder. Does that fit in an app?